I’ve recently discovered that many psychological problems stem from low self-esteem (should’ve learned this earlier in life, but better late than never). The feeling of self-worth comes from true unconditional love for yourself, which is dependent on being able to be true to yourself, regardless of how other people perceive you.
Being true to yourself means to not do things that others expect you to do if that hurts you or contradicts your beliefs. It means to never lie to yourself.
Being true to yourself means accepting who you really are and not what others think you should be. It means to not pretend to be someone else in order to gain acceptance from others.
Instead, accept yourself.
That’s why what you think about yourself is way more important than what others think about you. This is not selfishness. This is self awareness. Which, in turn, benefits other people around you.
If you love YOU, you will be capable of truly loving others (not being addicted, not being dependent or possesive but truly loving, in a healthy way).
If you accept yourself and stop pretending to be someone else – you will attract people who admire you for who you are. And those who don’t accept you this way – are not required to stick around.
I am what I am. And I accept it.