Everything is temporary. EVERYTHING.
Events, emotions, life itself.
We all know this. It’s a simple fact. But for some reason we treat those things above as if we weren’t aware of their temporary nature.
When we have negative feelings or emotions – we tend to get stuck and concentrate on them. As if this pain will stay with us forever. By doing this, we push ourselves deeper and deeper into the black hole. Some start seeing a therapist, others start taking pills, doing drugs or drinking. And the black hole expands. The pain gets worse because we make it worse.
Instead, why don’t we realize that there WILL be an end. We just need to be patient. Concentrate on other things and be patient, because tomorrow will be another day. And then there will be another one and another one, and the pain will eventually subside. And then it will go away completely. It always does. Always, regardless of the scope of the event that caused it. And the sooner we realize this, the quicker we recover.
A good friend once told me when I was going through tough times: “A year from now you won’t even remember what you’re worried about right now”. At that time, it seemed like the end of the world to me so I didn’t believe him. But he was right.
If you look back at your life a year ago, few years ago, you will remember those moments that caused pain. What you will also notice is that the pain did go away. If not yet – it will soon.
I follow this logic every time I run into tough situations. I do my best to resolve them.
And if there’s nothing else I can do and it still hurts – I move on to other things and just patiently wait. I don’t let the pain interfere with my life. I keep smiling and doing my thing. And eventually pain goes away. It always does.
If it comes back – it means there’s a trigger. You need to be strong enough to pull yourself out of situations that cause repetitive negative emotions. It’s not always easy because it normally causes change, and we’re naturally afraid of the unknown. But people who don’t change – don’t evolve.
Instead of getting stuck in negativism and watch days go by, we should live our life. Because life is also temporary.